“Pain is something to avoid at all cost, and it’s completely normal to suppress any discomfort with drugs.” – The Social Norm
If we have a tingling sensation or numb pain, we distract ourselves. Even small things like an itch we are trained to instantly desensitize and block the sensation. If you have an itch, you scratch it. If your back aches, you shift positions.
Our bodies know exactly what we need at any given moment, they are self healing, self regulating and carry tons of information to guide our personal transformation. “But why are so many suffering from health problems, pain or disease??” A great deception of course! Many of us know western medicine is completely corrupt to the core—treating the symptoms of the body will never treat the problem but it will and has built the pharmaceuticals market into the worlds largest industry—but this great deception I speak of is far more subtle and even more sinister.
From day one, we are taught to ignore what we are feeling, ignore the body’s communication, by suppressing anything that falls outside of the comfortable human state. Programmed to think pain is bad, this is what I should feel, this is what I can sense, and all else is tricks of the mind or abnormalities that must be quickly suppressed. Pain is something to avoid at all cost, and it’s completely normal to numb any discomfort with drugs.
“Mom, I have a headache!” … “Here’s some advil. Maybe try taking a nap.”
If we have a tingling sensation or numb pain, we distract ourselves. Even small things like an itch we are trained to instantly desensitize and block the sensation. If you have an itch, you scratch it. If your back aches, you shift positions. Our culture glorifies the active, masculine state where uncomfortably is a weakness to stamp out and all sensations are simply distractions.
Lately my focus has been reprogramming by subconscious mind to perceive all sensations more openly and fully. That means dropping all judgements about pain or abnormal sensations, and listening to what my body is saying through sensation. For instance, prickles and tingles usually indicate a negative energy block for me and when I follow them they actually lead to the source of the blockage. Remember you have all the answers within.
I found this article from Loner Wolf it does a great job putting this point of focus into words.
THE CURE FOR PAIN IS IN THE PAIN
The cure for pain, is in the pain. — Rumi
The greatest pain that I struggle with isn’t anger or sadness, but fear. I put it down to various social, inherited, neurological, hormonal, and psychological factors. But the fact of the matter is that it’s there. And I’ve tried to escape it for my entire life, always on a daily basis.
For as long as I can remember, there has been fear in my life. Fear of God, fear of my parents, fear of my teachers, fear of other people, and ultimately, fear of myself.
I have tried endless practices to deal with this pain. I’ve tried medication, herbs, cognitive behavioral therapy, NLP, hypnosis, affirmations, endless self-help books, and so much more. And while these practices helped for a short while to manage the symptoms, they always felt like ways to avoid, minimize or control what I was feeling.
Eventually, I discovered that no matter how much you run from pain or pretend that it isn’t there, it always quivers close by your feet like a shadow.
And in this discovery, I learned something important which I wish all people on the earth could discover:
the cure for pain IS in the pain.
1. BE WILLING TO FACE YOUR “DARKSCAPE”
To overcome any chronic suffering you’re experiencing, you really must be willing to search your darkness. You must be willing to face what you have not yet faced, or avoided within you for potentially many years.
Your darkness could be, physically speaking, the size of a fingernail that occasionally pulsates in your chest. Or your darkness may be like a deep chasm or abyss that seemingly has no end. The “Darkscape” within us always varies from person to person and was created from our inherited and early life wounds, as well as learned patterns and beliefs.
2. LEARN TO BECOME AWARE OF TRIGGERS AND PAIN AS IT ARISES
This point can be difficult, and it does take practice. Often, we tend to be stuck in the habit of immediately reacting to whatever pain arises inside of us. We become like robots that automatically switch on “self-protection” mode. We protect ourselves by withdrawing, suppressing, repressing, avoiding, or getting angry and defensive.
Becoming aware of triggers and pain as it arises requires you to practice meditation. You can also become aware of your internal “Feelingscape” through the regular practice of mindfulness. In fact, mindfulness and meditation go together seamlessly, and I recommend both of them.
To practice this skill, you will need to commit to it daily. But, let me guarantee, the time you spend will be MORE than worth it.
3. WHEN PAIN ARISES, ALLOW IT AND HOLD IT IN AWARENESS
It is hardwired into us to avoid that which causes us pain in life. What I’m asking you to do here may seem fundamentally counterproductive. But I challenge you to do it and see if it doesn’t make a difference to your life.
The most important part of holding your pain in awareness is non-judgement. When you start judging your feeling and judging yourself, you create further constriction and tension within your mind and body. Obviously, this doesn’t lead to any form of resolution — only more pain!
Non-judgement naturally comes from the practice of mindfulness and meditation; it is not something you must “do” as much as something you must “allow.” Does that make sense?
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